Poz Guys and Barebackers Have Low Self Esteem?
A comment on another blog got my hair bristling the other day…
HIV is a disease of low self esteem. People with high self esteem don’t put their health at risk because they value their lives. Also, people of self esteem don’t need to go ‘bareback’ to achieve intimacy because they will already have far more intimacy in their relationships than random hookups will ever give. Finally, people who are in touch with their instincts and know how to detect character flaws very early on will not have to worry about cheating partners.…
In the future, i imagine 2 classes of gay people emerging: those with high self esteem (almost all uninfected) and those with low self esteem (high rates of infection). I also imagine these 2 groups not intermixing when it comes to sex.
Those statements so outlandish I’m not sure if the guy is being funny or if he’s serious.
If he’s serious can you imagine what sex must be like with him? Do you think there’s ever a chance he’ll get a boyfriend or that the boyfriend will be monogamous?
But hey, if he ever does manage to get a boyfriend I’ll be happy to fuck the guy and seed his ass when he gets tired of the let’s-play-house “intimacy” with his boyfriend and just wants a proper fuck that leaves his ass all sloppy with cum. He won’t be the first guy like that I’ve seeded…
Sounds like a statement from someone trying to rationalize their new-found gayness, be he 15 or 51. The argument of self esteem to explain every “poor” choice by armchair psychologists has reached a point of overuse. (Medically diagnosed neuroses be damned!) There’s some value to notion that self worth does play a part in the process of decision making, but I’m not comfortable a blanket application.
The self-esteem angle is a neat little crutch for an argument that desperately tries to get to the endpoint of “I’m better than you because I love myself more.” To me, it smacks of self-righteousness and is way judgmental. As I believe we’ve seen far too many times, such statements tend to result in the speaker’s dirty secrets coming to light. < Insert stone-throwing quip bridging to ‘wide stance’ allusion here>
Regarding a sexual encounter with the poster, I don’t think there would be enough space for two in a room, given the enormous ego on this guy. Though I suppose he’d want it to go something like this.
Honestly, I can’t get too worked up about this episode ’cause it’s an anonymous post. >shrug<
I bareback – I have low self-esteem.
yesh. i mean there’s no way my man thinks i have a side bud. it doesn’t say anything about the quality of the person if they play on the side or can/can’t “detect” it. this guy def has some self-hate.
I probably have low self-esteem – fuck, I’m a self loathing jew!!!
I def bareback (or get), but I don’t think the two are tied in any way, shape or form.
ummm…this makes NO logical sense. if you tried to make this out it’d look like a crack whore on sunday morning.